We all need rest. We all need to step back and take time to be still.

It’s in these times that we finally have enough space to see, perhaps, that we’ve let our priorities get caddywompus.

We need times of inactivity to reflect on and plan for our times of activity. As performers, we need times of quiet to sit back and see where our passion to perform, our careers, our dreams, fit into the whole picture of our lives.

We are often prone to putting our careers and achievements at the top of our lists. If I book a Broadway show, if I get a TV series, if I win a certain award….

We know these things are thrilling, but when you are getting ready to check out of this life, are you going to say, “Bring me my Tony Award?” I really hope that’s not what you are asking for.

It’s tough to rest in America. Especially in a place like Los Angeles or New York, where a neurotic drive to achieve is not only allowed, but fed and encouraged. We think if we aren’t DOING, then nothing will get done. We tie our value as people so tightly to what we are accomplishing professionally.

Go to a party with other performers or people in the biz, and play a game…count how many times you are asked, “What are you working on?” or “What’s next?” Then add to the game by answering the questioner with something completely unrelated to the industry: a trip you’re planning, painting your bedroom, or how your significant other is doing.

And ask them questions that have nothing to do with the industry. You might be surprised what you find out.

Bottom line, take some time to sit, be still, take a nap, know that everything is moving along at the pace it’s supposed to move. Give yourself a break and listen to your heart to know what your real priorities in life are.

And drink lots of water…it’s hot out there y’all. Happy July 🙂

I’m talking specifically about what you do as an actor and singer.

One big reason we go to see theatre and hear people sing is so that we can experience and live the things we are afraid to experience in real life.

Think of your favorite actors and singers…they make you feel something.

That’s because they are feeling something.

I call it taking the hit, the emotional hit. Being willing to FEEL whatever surprise comes out of telling the story you’re telling.

Our favorite performers aren’t afraid to take the hit. Or if they are afraid, they take it anyway.

Here’s the incredible gift about being a performer. Our feelings, thoughts, and bodies are our tools, so we have to use them to be good at what we do.

Our work nudges us right up against our egos, frozen emotions, and places we don’t wanna feel.

The great thing is that our work actually provides a protective zone where feeling these things is safe.

Nobody knows that the pain you are feeling is linked to the childhood abuse you’re still ashamed about or the thoughtless thing you said to someone that you wish you could take back.

They just know it’s real.

We all have BS detectors.

With feelings, we learn that we’re dealing with sensation….and that’s all…the heart pounding, palms sweating, limbs shaking that we’re defining as a signal that we might die or spontaneously combust….those sensations could be the same response we have riding a roller coaster.

People pay lots of money at Disneyland just to feel those things. We get to feel them for free…and sometimes when we’re lucky, we get paid to feel them.

And that’s why the audience is there. They’re afraid to feel it, so they want you to feel it for them.

That’s why what we do is important, and I will even say that it is healing.

If you can be courageous enough to feel in front of people….and help someone else feel something they’re afraid to feel, you have helped that person.

That feeling is no longer trapped in their guts or back or wherever it happened to be pushed away. And they will leave the theatre that night that much lighter.

The other benefit of taking the hit in your work is that you grow more willing to take the hit in life.

And there is a gift in that….if you are willing to feel the pain, you are also willing to learn from it, change, and grow….

…and guess what? That’ll make you a much better performer.

See how that works?