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It’s a word most of us no likey, but I will put money on it being the thing that’s standing between us and the lives we were created to have.

Okay, so first let’s get over our knee-jerk reaction to this word.

Discipline derives from the Latin word disciplina (instruction) and disciplinus (a learner). It’s also related to the word disciple, which in the original Greek (mathetes) means a pupil or an apprentice to a master craftsman.

So check that out. Discipline really means learning, being apprenticed by someone who knows what they are doing.

As performers, the wonderful thing is that there is always something to learn, and always someone to learn from.

Like I said last month, I’ve been working on my opera sangin’…I’ve found a coach and a teacher who are truly master craftsmen. They actively work in the opera world and know a lot more than I do. I’m growing and learning week to week, I’m doing what they say, practicing, and I’m able to use that in my own performing (musical theatre and classical) and paying it forward to my clients.

Another great example of discipline for me is one of my teachers and mentors, Betty Buckley. Betty is a master at what she does, and that’s because she never stops working on it. Her work ethic is incredible. She is always studying, always seeking to be better, always finding the best people to give her the best tools. I would call Betty a master craftsman. That’s why I still use what she taught me eleven years ago when I studied with her (was an apprentice) in NYC. A master craftsman continues to work. That’s why she’s a master.

Ok, here’s how you break down discipline into practical terms for yourself. This is also a recap from last month, but worth repeating.

What are they? Family, friends, spiritual life, career, financial, etc. What’s in your gut? Pay attention over time as well to what might be buried and keeps coming to the surface. You might be surprised.

From your priorities, your goals will flow. Let’s say you want to invest more into your relationships. And in my opinion, relationships come before your career.

Some goals might be to take a friend out for dinner who’s going through a tough time, babysit for friends who have kids who can use a date night, or writing a just-because card to a member of your family you haven’t connected with in a while. Simple things-and you can easily see how you can translate this over to your career goals.

Now you have to do these things consistently over a period of time. And like I said before to all my fellow approval junkies, get a good friend who will hold your feet to the fire. Find a mentor who you want to make proud. Approval-seeking can be turned into a positive force in our lives.

This is just a sketch, but what’s most important to take away is that discipline is the foundation that your life structure can be built upon. We would never want to live in a house without a sound foundation and structure, yet we look at our structure-less lives and say, “Why isn’t this working?”

It’s like singing a song in the wrong key and choosing whatever lyrics you want. Doesn’t work.

So spend some time with this. Just pick one or two areas to focus on, and see what happens!

That means about twenty hours of quality practice per week for ten years.

I’ve definitely not reached that, and I’ve been at this for way more than ten years.

The good news is that most of us are not trying to be world-class…the Tiger Woods/Bill Gates/Serena Williams of musical theatre performance.

Most of us want to work consistently, doing good work with good people in good theatres.

• Write at the top of the page, “Long Term Priorities.”
• Write one third down the page, “Fires to Put Out.”
• Write two thirds down the page, “Daily Tasks.”

The A-word is key here. Accountability. Most of us performers are such people pleasers that this actually works in our favor.

If we set up a structure where we have to check in with a friend who is also working on their goals or a really good teacher, we are going to move forward.

Then once we’ve knocked out that long term goal by following small daily tasks, we’re ready to make a map for the next one.

I can even say that I PROMISE you…if you will take the few hours to sit down and chart this for yourself, post it where you will see it regularly, be intentional about it, and surround yourself with people who will kick your ass if you don’t deliver, you WILL see results.

Your skill will solidify. You will grow as a person. And then the You you are bringing into the audition room is someone a director is going to want to work with.

Happy September everyone!

I saw my Aunt Sherri last week. She lives in Sumter, SC, where the summer heat may be the most unforgiving of any place I’ve ever been. She was telling me about her garden which has been a challenge to keep cultivated in the scorching summer sun. She was really proud of one of her summer squash plants. Not once did it wilt in the sun because she kept it watered religiously.

We all need rest. We all need to step back and take time to be still.

It’s in these times that we finally have enough space to see, perhaps, that we’ve let our priorities get caddywompus.

We need times of inactivity to reflect on and plan for our times of activity. As performers, we need times of quiet to sit back and see where our passion to perform, our careers, our dreams, fit into the whole picture of our lives.

We are often prone to putting our careers and achievements at the top of our lists. If I book a Broadway show, if I get a TV series, if I win a certain award….

We know these things are thrilling, but when you are getting ready to check out of this life, are you going to say, “Bring me my Tony Award?” I really hope that’s not what you are asking for.

It’s tough to rest in America. Especially in a place like Los Angeles or New York, where a neurotic drive to achieve is not only allowed, but fed and encouraged. We think if we aren’t DOING, then nothing will get done. We tie our value as people so tightly to what we are accomplishing professionally.

Go to a party with other performers or people in the biz, and play a game…count how many times you are asked, “What are you working on?” or “What’s next?” Then add to the game by answering the questioner with something completely unrelated to the industry: a trip you’re planning, painting your bedroom, or how your significant other is doing.

And ask them questions that have nothing to do with the industry. You might be surprised what you find out.

Bottom line, take some time to sit, be still, take a nap, know that everything is moving along at the pace it’s supposed to move. Give yourself a break and listen to your heart to know what your real priorities in life are.

And drink lots of water…it’s hot out there y’all. Happy July 🙂

I’m talking specifically about what you do as an actor and singer.

One big reason we go to see theatre and hear people sing is so that we can experience and live the things we are afraid to experience in real life.

Think of your favorite actors and singers…they make you feel something.

That’s because they are feeling something.

I call it taking the hit, the emotional hit. Being willing to FEEL whatever surprise comes out of telling the story you’re telling.

Our favorite performers aren’t afraid to take the hit. Or if they are afraid, they take it anyway.

Here’s the incredible gift about being a performer. Our feelings, thoughts, and bodies are our tools, so we have to use them to be good at what we do.

Our work nudges us right up against our egos, frozen emotions, and places we don’t wanna feel.

The great thing is that our work actually provides a protective zone where feeling these things is safe.

Nobody knows that the pain you are feeling is linked to the childhood abuse you’re still ashamed about or the thoughtless thing you said to someone that you wish you could take back.

They just know it’s real.

We all have BS detectors.

With feelings, we learn that we’re dealing with sensation….and that’s all…the heart pounding, palms sweating, limbs shaking that we’re defining as a signal that we might die or spontaneously combust….those sensations could be the same response we have riding a roller coaster.

People pay lots of money at Disneyland just to feel those things. We get to feel them for free…and sometimes when we’re lucky, we get paid to feel them.

And that’s why the audience is there. They’re afraid to feel it, so they want you to feel it for them.

That’s why what we do is important, and I will even say that it is healing.

If you can be courageous enough to feel in front of people….and help someone else feel something they’re afraid to feel, you have helped that person.

That feeling is no longer trapped in their guts or back or wherever it happened to be pushed away. And they will leave the theatre that night that much lighter.

The other benefit of taking the hit in your work is that you grow more willing to take the hit in life.

And there is a gift in that….if you are willing to feel the pain, you are also willing to learn from it, change, and grow….

…and guess what? That’ll make you a much better performer.

See how that works?